No Problem. Is a Problem

Forget about it… . Is a Problem I invite him like I invite mouth blisters.â€" Paula Abdul (talking about American Idol's Simon Cowell) Welcome to President Bush, Mrs. Hedge, and my kindred space travelers.â€" previous Vice President, Dan Quayle, who was not a space traveler Decisions/Image: Michael Moffa One measure of the condition of habits and respectfulness in present day expert and individual life is the ritualized articulationsâ€"both verbal and non-verbalâ€"that portray our associations. The triumph of the articulation no issue over the pleasure is all mine is one such indicator of our changing social and (un)civil atmosphere. All things considered, it comprises an admonition of social mists overhead. Ask Your Grandmother There used to be when in the event that somebody stated, Thank you, the normal and for all intents and purposes all inclusive answer would have been the pleasure is all mine. Check with your grandma to affirm this. In the most significant levels of expert or formal association, this is likely still the standard. In like manner, among non-local English speakers, who for the most part take in the most neighborly English from their officially prepared educators, the pleasure is all mine wins, in spite of their affection for the too easygoing going to (going to). Be that as it may, ask yourself whether your run of the mill reaction or the one you hear regularly among selection representatives, among enrollment specialists and competitors or among scout and customer is my pleasure, or no issue. More then likely, very acclimated with saying or hearing no issue, the vast majority won't give it a first or doubt. It's as normal as put a shrimp on the barbie, mate is in Australiaâ€"regardless of whether no prawblem possibly may have not begun there. You enter any shop or store, you pay for your buy and state, Bless your heart. In the event that the right hand, representative or Star Buck's barista is under 40 (as they all appear to be at any Star Bucks I've been in around the globe), it is as unsurprising as droopy jeans on a rapper that you'll hear no issue accordingly. The issue with no issue is that it is totally an inappropriate commentâ€"including for enrollment specialists. The Problem with No Problem What's up with it is that it misshapes thank you into I'm grieved. Consider it: Thank you!â€" No issue; you didn't raise me any or much ruckus or burden. (Giving you my cash troubled you?) Or, No issue; simply don't do it once more. (Don't accepting another Super Mocha Grande?) Or, No issue; it wasn't significant, at any rate. (Ah, my business is insignificant?) Or, No issue; no biggie for me. (My support doesn't make a difference?)â€" the last being quietly not the same as It wasn't significant, in any case. These are not reactions to articulations of appreciation. They are reactions to a statement of regret for bad behavior. Presently, envision saying no issue to a customer who has quite recently said thank you for your applicant search and suggestions. In the event that you are more youthful, instead of more established, you might be in danger of saying no issue as a reflex, similar to I'm similar to… ., since it's a piece of the MTVocabulary (not to be mistaken for void jargon… or if nothing else not by any individual who speaks MTV). At whatever point I evoke a no issue, I wince and believe, I'm heartbroken, yet did I simply apologize to you, rather than saying thanks to you? If I do say, I'm grieved, yet did I simply apologize to you?, at that point no issue unexpectedly turns into the fitting answer to me, since, without a doubt, I will have quite recently communicated a genuine statement of regret at that point (for having befuddled much appreciated with I'm grieved). My terrible. Obviously, no issue should be easygoing, non-formal, similarly as it's OK is. The issue with this proportionality is that it's OK ought to likewise be utilized uniquely in light of a statement of regret. I'm sorry I'm late.â€" No issue/It's OK. Besides, for what reason ought to being easygoing legitimize such a confound of comment and answer? The Problems of Illogic and Being Ill-Mannered Maybe the development of such an accusatory affirmation as no issue is the aftereffect of imperfect MTV rationale: Easygoing is acceptable. Subsequently non-considerate is acceptable. Along these lines discourteous is acceptable. This sort of reasoning unmistakably underlies about 95% of the provoking chitchat between youthful guys who in any case call themselves companions: Yo good for nothing, wus' up? They can pull off that illogic; you can'tâ€"except if you are enrolling shopping center rodent droopy jeans young people for official posts. Another conceivable clarification for the dislodging of thank you by no issue is that the individuals who state no issue truly feel irritated, troubled or in any case contrary about the individual expressing gratitude toward them and are letting their actual sentiments spill outâ€"in the socially determined soul and needs of genuineness, acting naturally or honesty that have also and for the most part uprooted civility, obligingness, regard and (affectability of the subsequent kind, viz., charitable, instead of the right now increasingly regular excessive touchiness to offense). On the off chance that I were in an enlisting circumstance wherein I really held such negative assumptions, I would oppose the compulsion to allow my emotions to spill so calmly. No, rather than no issue, I would state in light of thank you, This isn't an issue. (Just joking.) The Wisdom of Robert Downey, Jr A third theory is proposed by Oscar-winning entertainer Robert Downey, Jr's reaction when asked in a meeting how he would portray American young people. His answer: dreadful narcissists. As a captivating hypothesis, his portrayal proposes that no issue might be intended to pass on two thingsâ€"first, that the position or mentality of the expressed gratitude toward was really guarded, fringe frightful, in anticipating some enormous burden; second, that self-ingestion makes the said thanks to party unaware of any delight in being usefulâ€"the sort of joy the pleasure is all mine ceremonially or truly passes on. For the dreadful narcissist, my pleasure sends totally an inappropriate message, on two checks, viz., it is an existentially inauthentic lie to recommend that the expressed gratitude toward party really felt agreeable in being requested assistance and a second untruth that the person in question is genuinely glad to have made another person upbeat. With that cleared up, on the off chance that you need to say thanks to me for my examination, proceed. My reaction? I'll be appreciative if there were no issues with it.